When Love Hurt YOU Don't Give Up On Love.

When love hurt you don't give up on love.
Yes getting hurt carries unfathomable emotions, however do not allow it to make you bitter or give up on love.

Note: Love did not Hurt you; The person you Loved Hurt YOU.

Giving up on love is the most ridiculous thing that I've ever said and what I've heard from others who experienced heart break. I use to recite the phrases "I'm done with love; Love sucks, Love Hurts and Love is cruel." It looks/sounds stupid right?
Why do we place the blame on LOVE? Love did not hurt us. Love is beautiful, happiness, a blessing and the most awesome emotion to have.
Instead of placing the emphasis on love we should place the horrid feeling of getting hurt on the person who we trusted with our love. The person we entrusted with our love is of discussion when it involves heartbreak. Love plays NO prevalence when it comes to heartbreak.

Give up on entrusting your heart with people who don't deserve your love. 
Give up on expecting others to love you because you lack fulfilling love for self.
Give up on expecting others to love the way that you do. Everyone's perception on love differs, find love that compares to your definition of what love is.
Give up on forcing love upon others or forcing others to love you.

Love does not hurt. Love did not leave you. Love did not cheat on you. Love did not disrespect you. Love did not betray you,
The person that you loved hurt you, left you, cheated on you, disrespected you and betrayed you. 
Do not become bitter and harbor hate for love. The horrible actions from the person/persons that you entrusted with your love should not defy how you should love others or have any power over you. When you submit to bitterness is takes over you in a powerless way. It will make you cold, unwelcoming and it will create a negative aura that isn't becoming of you.

P.H.A.T. Women Logic:

Instead of holding contempt or bitterness, be careful with who you entrust with your love. 
It's okay to have your guards on active duty but not to the extent of pushing everyone away or being someone who isn't pleasant to approach. The horrible relationships and betrayal from others should not be forgotten but should be used as teaching elements of what not to accept.

Most importantly Loving yourself will prevent you from accepting anything/anyone who doesn't deserve you or your love. 
Be Open, Wise, Careful & Patient.

Reminder:Love does NOT Hurt; The Person you loved Hurt YOU.
-Be Encouraged!

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The Beauty of P.H.A.T. Confidence

P.H.A.T. Confidence defines having pride in oneself, being happy in the skin that you're in, astonishing others with your assertiveness & representing your self in a tasteful refined confident manner. 

P: Prideful is to have a high opinion of oneself & possess self respect. One who believes and knows they're relevant. One who accepts self as is.
H: Happy is the definition of being joyous and pleased. Holding a joyful inner being represents the ability of being pleased and content with oneself in which commands a happy heart.
A: Astonishing represents that you are astounding in your own right. Your pure bliss surprises others. Yes you are of plus size and yes you continue to surprise those who believe that all plus sized individuals are depressed, lonely and unhappy with your blissfulness.
T: Tasteful is having the ability to express your beauty in a refined way. You are a lady who represents herself in a refine, elegant and classy manner. 

P.H.A.T. Women Logic:

P.H.A.T. Confidence describes loving the woman that you are in the skin that you reside in. When you love you from the inside out the confidence that you have will reveal itself in the way that you carry yourself, the way that you speak, the attire that you wear, your full representation of you will demand respect. 

P.H.A.T. Confidence heightens your self concept, the concept that was previously broken is now renewed. Society negative views and the toxic views from people who are in your daily surroundings has NO significance in your life because no one opinion dictate who you are; you know who you are and most importantly you accept who you are. P.H.A.T. women recognizes, acknowledges and accepts who she is in her current dress size, and she defy who she is because no person, place or thing has the power to defy her worth.

Confidence is a repellent against all things that are toxic. 

Use confidence as your weapon against a society who treated 

you like a 2nd hand citizen because you are in plump skin, use it to keep toxic people at bay. Wear your confidence, live in your confidence, own your confidence and speak with confidence and others will have no choice but to respect your confidence. 

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The Crown She Wears...

The Crown She Wears...

The crown she wears may be tarnished, worn, or scratched but she wears her crown fearlessly.

The crown she wears represents her flaws, challenges, imperfections and triumphs.

Though her flaws and imperfections may intimidate others, she stands solid next to her Truth. The challenges of self reflecting and becoming one with who she truly is has set the tone of how she wears her crown. 

She wears her crown fearlessly and proudly because throughout each challenging experience that she has endured/conquered  another diamond was added to her crown. 

Yes her crown may have a few scratches and may even be tarnished, yet she continues to hold her head high with a sparkle in her eyes, a shimmer in her smile, and a glow of confidence in each step she makes.

-Karen D. Harbin.     

P.H.A.T. Women Logic:

Ladies, you're a creation from the Most HIGH. You have air in your lungs and a beating heart within your chest in which determines that you're alive. Everything & anything that is alive in this world has it's own definitive purpose. 
We are all flawed and carry imperfections but those are the very things that make us human. Embrace your imperfections & flaws, be fearless in how you define yourself, be fearless in every challenging and triumphant phase of your life. 
Wear your crown fearlessly!
 

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