Lessons From Yesterday...

Lessons From Yesterday...

Every lesson is designed for progression...

Every mistake, pit fall, step down, demotion, downfall, is a lesson for progression.

Every plan that has been disrupted was a lesson for progression.

Every failed relationship, friendship was a lesson for progression. 

Every heartbreak, betrayal and displaced heart was a lesson progression. 

Our life experiences from birth until now was designed to enable progression. Trial & Error has always played a factor in all of our lives. 

Lessons from yesterday is designed to teach us, mold us and guide us on a path to progressing. 

Lessons from yesterday promotes gradual growth, whether it's academic growth, personal development growth, career growth and/or spiritual growth.

My Truth... In recent years I have experienced spiritual growth while going through some trying times in my life and I've learned to lean closer to the Most High and ever since I've relied on My King he has never let me down. 

My spiritual growth has been a wonderful journey and I have learned that when going through difficult times, I should consider it an opportunity for spiritual growth. 

Spiritual Awakening by a woman that teaches the gospel once told me "God's curriculum will always include lessons we wish we could skip. God chooses our curriculum." She then went on to ask me... "Ask yourself this question... What is God trying to teach you today?" 

I was astounded by the question and I thought long and hard on the question before replying and I replied... God has taught me that every failed plan, failed relationship, failed career choice etc...was designed for me to progress further and that those disruptions were life lessons for progression.

He chooses our fate, destiny in which he often detours/disrupts our plans because our plans don't go accordingly with his plans for us.

When we jump off the course that God has set for us and get distracted away from our purpose he will guide us back to the course of HIS curriculum. 

Life lessons are indeed designed for progression. Our mistakes, pitfalls and downfalls aren't there to destroy us, they are there to promote progression. 

Rely on the Most High for strength and embrace every downfall, demotion, pitfall or disruption as a means for progression. Don't fall apart take every blow as a means for progression.

P.S. Gods love for us is everlasting, beautiful and forgiving. No matter what mistakes have been made his love for us is everlasting and forgiving.
All Love Beauties... Growth is a Beautiful Thing! Embrace it!!!

Karen D. Harbin

#PhatWomenLogic

When Your Confidence Threatens Other's...

When Your Confidence Threatens Other's...

Hello Beauties, I come to you in sheer disappointment. Sadly I'm in non-disbelief... 
I was visiting family this weekend and an acquaintance of a family member said something that made my skin crawl. 
The woman complimented me on the weight that I have loss and made the most shallow ignorant comment "Girl you are getting close to my size, soon you will have the boy's all over you."
I was like WOW are you serious.
I did not snap on the woman nor did I let her see that I was bothered by her very shallow comment. I simply responded "Darling the boy's have always knocked on my door, I'm opening my door for men only...You can have the boy's LOL!"

You see some people believe that you have to be or obtain a certain size to be looked upon as attractive. Personally I never had a issue with knowing the beauty that I possessed I had issues with having confidence.
Some are threaten by the confidence that you possess, especially the naysayers that believe that people of plus size don't have a ounce of confidence or shouldn't have confidence. 
I've heard comments such as, Your Pretty For a Big Girl. You Dress nice for a Big Girl. 
I even had women ask me "How did you get that guy?" or I heard WOMEN (friends, family& acquaintances) question why would a man choose a woman of plus size..."How did she get him? She must be paying for his time etc..." I cannot begin to tell you how much it made my skin crawl to hear another woman dethrone another woman in such a shallow, ignorant, hateful way.

I detest when other's try to be endearing by saying words that they think that you want to hear regarding your size, beauty and emotions... "Even though your BIG Your still Beautiful." 
HUH???Like I know this. I don't need your shallow comments darling. I never implied nor did I exude that I was insecure about my beauty.
Does my Confidence make you uncomfortable? Do you think that my Confidence is foe? 
Do my Confidence threaten your shallow thoughts about me?

Big Beauties, we do not have to prove or explain our Confidence. We simply exude confidence in the way that we carry ourselves. 
So what if the naysayers feel uncomfortable by us dating attractive, intelligent men. They should focus on themselves instead of YOU. 
Yasss Darling you are fashionable, Trendy, intelligent, a Survivor who is Bold and Fierce! Stay Confident and allow No one to determine your level of confidence. Don't allow the naysayers to spew their hateful venom on you and have you questioning your self acceptance. Be You Darling and as I always say Make No Apologies for being YOU!!!

Friends and Family that try to be endearing with shallow baseless comments probably mean well however, you should address them immediately by telling them that you don't need their sympathy, pity- compliments or encouragement regarding your size or your self concept because you know who you are and are comfortable, fabulous and gorgeous in the skin that you reside in.

Dear society, STOP assuming that my weight is stalling my progression. I don't need your sympathy, concern or pity. It inferior ate's me when people assume that they should act or feel a certain way around me because of my size. Darling I'm good!

There was a time when I had the Fat Girl Syndrome and lacked confidence... however now with a revamped mentality of who I truly am and what I'm truly worth I glow in confidence.




Make No Apologies Beauties, Keep astonishing the naysayer's and Remember that Confidence is Beauty!  

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P.S... Be on the lookout this fall for a revised version of my book- The Fat Girl's Syndrome VS. P.H.A.T. Women Logic